A lot of times we lash out at people or find ourselves becoming angry because we have not dealt with the underlying issues of our problems. Instead of trying to deal with your actions/habits, you have to deal with the root cause. I know that many people have heard this but they still do not deal with their real issues. I want to encourage you to do so today otherwise you will never move forward.
So when you get mad at the same person ask yourself why you really do. When you react in certain ways ask yourself what triggers it. I want to give you an example.
Sarah was a young lady who has everything going for her in life. She is married to a wonderful man, drives a lovely car, has a successful business and generally had an easy going life. However, Sarah used to to get angry at her husband for the smallest mistakes he would make. I am talking about pointless things such as the poor guy dropping beetroot on the kitchen floor. If he came home 10 minutes late she would assume he was out there gallivanting with other girls when in actual fact he would just be watching a rugby game with his friends. So once she sat down and analysed her reactions, she knew deep down inside that her husband was a good, faithful man. Sarah was just reacting that way based on what she had watched her father behave like whilst she was growing up. Her father often lied to her mother and cheated on her and was never really trustworthy, so because her frame of reference about men was based on them being liars, her sub-conscious mind automatically told her that her husband was a liar too. As a result she would be nasty to him and that caused problems in their marriage.
The good news is, she began to deal with her problems. She re-programmed her mind by reminding herself what a good man he had been to her. She realised that not all people are like her father and that she could enjoy her life by trusting God, and by also taking time to do her personal things like hanging with the girls and getting her nails done while he was out with his friends. Now she no longer subjects him to humiliation and their relationship is better than ever. And honestly, he has not cheated on her.
I know that is a unique example but I used it just to illustrate how horrible memories are toxic to our minds and how much they can affect our relationships with anyone, if not dealt with. One of the determinants of success is actually just learning how to use your mind as leverage. If your mind is boggled up with anger, mistrust, unforgiveness and so many other negative emotions then the truth is you will never be free to move forward and have a prosperous life. SO my task for you this week is to analyse your mind, begin to deal with your issues, forgive those who have hurt you and release all that hurt to God. Not only will He bless you but He will heal you and give you a double recompense like He promises in His word. Be blessed.