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Today I had the privilege of speaking to an accomplished gentleman who helped me realise that my dream was something worth pursuing even when im battling with fear.

The truth is if you are not going to go after your dream you will never be fulfilled. I want you to take some time tonight and admit to yourself what it is you really want to do, what will give you fulfillment while doing it. Did you know that I had conceptualised Ezahlady since I was 18 – that is 5 years ago.And not only is the blog growing but so many other elements involved are growing too. These are things that other people cannot see now but will see in the next couple of years. The next couple of posts will focus on dreams and I would like you to really take time to check them out and decide what you will do with the information. Have a good night and remember that your greatness is manifested when you are true to your self – so be true to your dream because it is God’s manifestation of himself in your uniqueness. Grace be with you!


Let Him do It

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Let me tell you something amazing. Your dreams are not a coincidence or something that you just conjured up in your head. Dreams are divine signals from God, informing you on the purpose He has marked out for you from the beginning of time. It is up to you, how you use your time, money, gifts and abilities with which you are endowed.

From personal experience, I will tell you that working on your dream is initially time-consuming but worth it. It is also an emotional journey. What matters is who believes in your vision, even if it is one person encouraging you to go on. Now I want you to do a lot of introspection and answer honestly – are you really going after your dream? My Pastor once told us that the graveyard is the wealthiest place in the world – people have died with their potential untapped, homes not built, presidents who did not make it to office, and many other sad stories.

Go does something amazing each time you take your purpose seriously. He opens doors for you when you least expect it. He honours somebody who takes the time to nurture his/her dream. You will stumble across times of loneliness. There are challenges but there is also good news: you will find people who will buy into your dream. God brings them into your life to assist you, do not leave Him out of the equation and do not give credit to the Universe.. for crying out loud He made the universe!

”Write the vision and make it plain upon tablets that he may run who reads it, for the vision is yet for an appointed time; but at the end it will speak and not lie. Though it tarries, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry”. Habbakuk 2:2 

Note what God Himself says about following the vision/purpose of your life:

1. You must write it down clearly. This includes making a timeline of the things you would like to achieve and the process involve.

2. Involve others, like mentors, teachers, whoever. You have to use wisdom and discretion though, that is why it is important for us to seek God and His wisdom gaily. God will cause your plans to succeed but He is a gentleman, He will not force His way into your life. You must ask Him.

3. God has made an appointed time for ALL THINGS. You just need to faithfully work while He leads you. Use discretion and wisdom that is why the Bible stresses on asking God for wisdom.

4. Dreams go through stages and take time. Do not despair. All is well.

So decide what you will do. Remember, your dream is yours and belongs to nobody els. Do not let anyone steal that away from you. Grace be with you.

The Slight Edge

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Jeff Olson wrote an eye-opening book called ‘The Slight Edge’. You ought to read it.

It explains how people actually become succesful. There is no straight formula because what works for one person may be different for another. Of course there are sound strategies that need to be used in order for someone to get to their desired destination. However, I realised from reading this material that success is a journey and that it is the actions you do daily that will determine your outcome; for good or for evil.

Life is like a curve, not a straight line. So if you keep sowing good habits, you will reap good rewards. If you keep sowing bad habits, you will reap bad rewards. This pertains to all areas of your life. If you do not learn to invest your money well, you will live from paycheck to paycheck. If you learn to delay instant gratification and invest your money well, you will live with passive income for the rest of your life.

It is true. Think about it. Every action you take is compounded over time. Think about that. If you smoke, your lungs are not going to fail on you for the first week. Nor the next ten years. But granted, you keep puffing away for the next 15 to 20 years, you are going to get premature wrinkles. Your skin will grey. You hair will be limp. You will have bad breath. You will have breathing difficulties. Lung and throat cancer are most likely to develop in your body.

If you want to lose weight and you are at the gym 3 times a week but you still look like a sea lion posing on a rock, are you going to quit? You probably will if you are like 99% of people. If, however, you carried on for the next three months you will look like a flamingo posing in the Okavango Delta (Much better picture).

So what are your goals? Have you made any plans for this year? If not, I suggest you carefully think them out because you need to have something useful to do with your time. You cannot move through life hoping that situations will change. No, God is not going to drop money  from Heaven like Manna, nor will He support that bad habit of yours! You need to decide what it is you want out of life and begin doing it. With His help, you can!

It is easy to do the right thing and it easy not to. It is easy to start today and it is easy to start tomorrow (which never comes). The great thing about life is that each day brings with it the opportunity to start afresh, but when you delay certain things like practising good health and money principles, it will come at a huge cost a loss.

Please do not waste another minute of your life loafing about like Sponge Bob does. He is going to be frying crabby patties for the rest of his life unless he chooses to change direction. Again, this is very easy to do and very easy not to do. The scary thing about the Slight Edge is that it gives you exactly what you give out : it will either work for you or work against you.

Choose which way you want to go. Even God Himself told us about the importance of choice when He said in Deutoronomy 30:19-20, “This day I call Heaven and Earth as witness against you that I have set before you death and life, blessings and curses. Therefore choose life so that you and your children may live…”

Can you imagine, He set Heaven and Earth as witnesses against us? (lol) So you see that God tells us that the choices wemake will either bring death or life into our lives. Not only that, but our choices also affect our children’s lives… Read the whole scripture again. So what do you choose to do, dear lady? Remember that each action you take towards reaching that goal will compound over time and you will rach your fianl outcome.

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Your crown is on its way!

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Compliments of the year to all of my readers, may God bless you and grant your hearts desires!

Over the past few weeks I discovered a very important lesson about life that I would like to share. It is about patience.

We all want certain things in our lives to manifest such as a better job, a bigger house, a fancier car or even maybe a better relationship. Most things in life can be centered around material things and then we get lost in the rat race trying to have more, trying to achieve more and so on. There is absolutely nothing wrong with focusing on your self-development, especially if it’s going to make you a better person to relate with others. However, when we become too obsessed with where we want to go and what we want to be we begin to lose our peace and even our happiness. It is important to keep a balance between working on and dreaming of the future, and cultivating true happiness in our present moments. I was very frustrated when I thought about how I could be doing better at another company and all the things I was unhappy about (yes, I’m also human) until I literally just sat down and decided to rest in the Lord.

At times, we try so hard and it seems like we are at a standstill right? Well perhaps the Lord is actually testing us on what is called PATIENCE. Sometimes we need our characters to be tested and there are times when you find that other people are prospering more than you are and it makes you feel like you are not doing enough. Do not believe you are a loser-  it is only that in life each of us has different learning curves and when you learn the lesson you were meant to, God then promotes you to the next level. Remember that anything of value takes time  to cultivate and grow. Do not rush the process of patience or try to avoid it because it is essential in building up a strong character. I read in the Bible today that we should rejoice at our trials and tribulations because they build patience and when you have learned, God will give you that crown that He has promised. It simply means that when you are ready to handle all the big things, they come.

So next time you feel weary and someone else is “doing better” than yourself, do not despair. You are a work in progress and you will soon wear your crown!

10 Things Every Woman Should Know

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Hi there ladies! I want to share these ten truths that I have learned; most through personal experience and some from observing other women learn these lessons.

LESSON 1 – Take Control Of Your Own Life

When you allow people to dictate to you how you should walk, talk, use your time, resources and emotional energy your really are becoming a doormat and have let people overstep their boundaries. Eventually you become frustrated and unhappy. It is YOUR life, and you CHOOSE how you are going to respond to situations and people.

LESSON 2- Your Opinion Counts

Never allow another person’s opinion be the thing which makes or breaks you- if you notice a pattern where your self-esteem and worth lie on what someone says or doesn’t say, then you need to break that habit fast! As long as who you are is not detrimental to yours or anyone elses’ health, then it is ok to be you! If you suddenly wear black shoes because your friend said that you red shoes are not in this summer, but you like your red shoes then get them out and wear them again. Listen to me girlfriend, you will literally become sick trying to please everybody because people keep changing their minds about what keeps them happy.

LESSON 3- It’s Your Happiness

Take charge of your own happiness. Misery breeds misery and miserable people do not like being in the company of happy people. The world does not owe you a thing, by the way. Quit blaming people, walking with a chip on your shoulder and just get on with life. I know that mean people have done nasty things to you but you have to decide that you will be happy for your own sake.

LESSON 4 – Walk Away

I’m talking about walking away from abusive relationships, unfruitful friendships, or anything that steals your joy, peace and sanity! Your physical, spiritual and emotional health depend on this.

LESSON 5 – Your World

If your outer world is in turmoil, then honey, you have to check what is going on inside. Take a weekend and ask yourself the following questions:

– Do I base my happiness on internal/external factors?

-Am I really doing what I know will make me happy?

– Am I holding onto my past?

– Can I improve my attitude?

Be honest with yourself because this is introspection and it helps.

LESSON 6- The Only Constant Love

It is not found in your boyfriend, your fame or the recognition you get for being so awesome (lol). My dear friend, when others label you He sees a diamond that needs to be polished. When you are rejected, abandoned, used, and mocked… the only person who will still love you even at your worst is GOD. Choose to build a relationship with Him, this is what Christ desires for you. You can disagree with me – sooner or later you will be on the floor seeking His direction. If you are searching for answers.. keep looking because He will reveal Himself to you. One thing I have learned through trial and error is that God was always the only constant source of love. And remember that your own mother can forsake you, but not God. Quit putting your trust in fleeting things, but put your trust in a merciful, loving God who wants to put the pieces together.

LESSON 7 – Value

Value yourself and others will. De-value your worth and the rest will not see it. The truth is, so many people are worried over their own lives that they really will not want to remind you of your worth. It is rare to have people who will encourage you because they may envy you. Do not wait for Mr. Right or Miss She’s So Cool to remind you of the precious woman you are. Start looking at yourself with a whole new perspective and learn to love yourself dearly.

LESSON 8 – Relationships

Please do not drop the things you love doing or fit him into your schedule even when he turns up an hour late. Be honest ladies, if you know you are giving more than you are receiving it is not right. You know why? A man who truly loves his woman would never be selfish in terms of what he gives- with his time and affection and many other things. A man who is in love is giving. If you make him a 4 course meal but he won’t buy you dinner, if he you find yourself thinking about him too much – then you need to get yourself a hobby and relax! Be balanced, stand your ground and do not revolve your life around him. Men respect women who are independent and have a life of their own. Remember that if he does not appreciate you, it is HIS fault, and as Dr. Phil always say, “HE LOST THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO HIM”.

LESSON 9 – Your Health

Please exercise, change your diet, stop the bingeing and totally fall in love with your body. Go shopping and choose clothes that flatter your body, speak good words over it, paint your toenails in pretty bright colours, wear lipgloss, keep your smile white and pearly, for goodness’ sake, love the body you’re in!

LESSON 10 – Believe

Believe in yourself. Believe in yourself. Believe in yourself. Have faith that things will work out for good. Dream big and believe in your ideas. Write down your goals and set out to achieve them. Start looking at life differently. Re-new your mind with faith-filled words. Fight for a better you. Fight for a better life.

                                                                                 IT ALL BEGINS WITH YOU!


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Make Peace With Your Thighs

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I once tuned into Joyce Meyer’s “Enjoying Everyday Life” program and heard her say, “I make peace with my thighs”. What a startling confession! Two-thirds of the crowd, women, wailed in excitement. I am not sure if they were cheering on because someone shared their plight  or if they had come to the same conclusion.

Let thou see the light: if God could write you a letter, based on scripture, I am sure it would read as:

Dear Daughter,

When I created you, I made something that no scientist can emulate. In my image and likeness you were fashoined, and when I saw you, I proclaimed, “Oh my gosh, I ‘m so hectic!”. I intricately wove you when you were in your mom’s womb and placed your nose, freckles, lips and determined the size of your height to My specifications because I saw it as good. In fact, I am enthralled by your beauty. I did not only create your physical appearnace but I placed so much on the inside of you that when you let it shine, you will bless your generation. Do not let your light be dimmed but let it shine. Even if you have allowed your weight slip, I want you to accept yourself as you are and focus on nurturing your body. That way you will adopt a healthy lifestlye and exercise. It depends on how much you respect yourself. Have a good attitude and the outward results will be amazing.

Love Dad.

Ask any psychologist or fitness expert and they will tell you that you first need to love your body and then decide on the goals you want to reach when losing weight. This has both long-term physical and psychological benefits.

I recommend you exercise, drink plenty of water, change your diet if you are eating food that is expanding your waist line and just do it for YOURSELF. Say these words with me, ” I make peace with my thighs and I vow to take care of my body for the sake of peace, serenity and my duty towards God”. Have a Kit- Kat. LOL. Be blessed ladies!

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Every year thousands of people who are dissatisfied with the quality of their lives, want to change and I believe that change is an inevitable process which we all have to undergo one way or the other. Change occurs when we finish school, change jobs, move from an apartment building to a double-storey house… the list is endless. The truth is, when change does occur, the individual who is experiencing that change will have to learn how to adapt. In most cases, sadly, many people adapt to change in a negative way instead of seeing the opportunities change brings. Often times I have heard women complain and tell me that the change they experience is mostly negative.  At this season of my life, I am experiencing change in many areas of my life, some of which I wish I could avoid. At first some of these changes actually depressed me but after looking at each situation optimistically I then challenged myself to change my mindset so that I could create more opportunities and make use of my change in a positive way. I will therefore share some observations I have made once I reached that decision and took action.

1. Your mindset determines the outcome

Here is the truth honey, whether you win P1 million or lose P2000, the end result will be determined on your mindset. If you are financially immature you could possibly squander the winnings and in the case of the lost money, you could actually cry for weeks on end instead of figuring out how to make back the money. I can move into a plush neighbourhood in Sandton, but as long as my mindset is filled with negativity, complaining and bitterness, I will find every opportunity to find something wrong with living in Sandton! My point is, when you experience change, which you will, begin to have an optimistic mindset. Yes, I do know that some situations can get you feeling so low and depressed, but one day you have to pull yourself out of it and encourage yourself along the way because the longer you deal with a situation immaturely, the worse it becomes.

2. Make a realistic plan

I got to a point in my personal life where I had to sit down, literally counsel myself and write down what it is I wanted in my future. After doing so, I then wrote out a detailed plan on how I was most likely to achieve those goals. For example, in terms of my physical health, I wanted to have a healthy, sexy, toned body. I then began to search health magazines for exercise programs, a healthy eating plan, and I had to be honest with myself and cut down on the unhealthy habits. At first I was amazed about the result this produced, but after a while I backslid. Eventually, after gaining back the weight in excess and slipping back into unhealthy habits I found the courage to begin again. This time, I took small, realistic steps and looked at the bigger picture. The truth is, I needed to exercise so that I could maintain a healthy lifestyle. What really mattered was that I respected my body enough to treat it well and not about the compliments I would receive. Now I am easier and more patient with myself and I feel that I can achieve a lot more today. Therefore, my dear lady, when you make a plan, focus on how you will be happy, glorifying God and not on impressing people. The longevity of your plan will be determined by your motive and if it is not to empower yourself then it is not worth it.

3. Enjoy the ride

Quite often we are in such a hurry to see results that when we have not arrived there we become angry and then we lose the plot altogether. I recently became so impatient with myself that I called a good friend of mine and after crying buckets and complaining he looked at me, smiled, and reminded me of all the good I was doing . I then began to change my perspective. You see woman, anything worth changing will take a while. I believe it is because during that process, God wants to really toughen you up; He wants to create patience, perseverance and a glorious character in you. You have to go through the fire you cannot avoid it. There will be times when you feel uncomfortable, yes, but that’s for the testing of your faith. And so stop being so hard on yourself; enjoy the ride. Be thankful that even though you are not where you are, at least it is not where you used to be. You will then wake up one day and say, “Wow, I don’t do that anymore!” And while you are losing weight, please have an ice-cream!

Have a blessed day, may the Lord who is so good make your dreams come true.

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