Take Care of Yourself FIRST

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Too often we have a false sense of responsibility and we try to take care of everyone else, and neglect ourselves.  There is nothing wrong with helping people but if you are out of balance and you allow people to control you and make them happy first, you need to quit that and take time out for yourself. Take care of yourself. If you are going around upset and discouraged it is because you have made the mistake of taking a false sense of responsibility. Quit trying to be the keeper of the universe, you can’t force people to make the right decisions so just give them over to God.

So make a choice to put yourself first and make yourself happy.

Stay fresh!


Small changes = BIG results

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When all hell is breaking loose and you are only one step off, most of the time you think of giving up, isn’t that true of most people? 

I want you to do a little exercise. Sit straight on a chair, back straight head and chest lifted and say the words, “Yes I can’How does that make you feel? Note the way you seem so confident and note how it affects your mind in this posture. Now, drop your head and your chest and again, repeat the words, “Yes I can”. Now notice the difference.You may not feel as confident in what you say. Did you notice that the small change in your posture made all the difference in your belief system?

If you are in a state of certainty and all hell is breaking loose, that is the one thing that can guarantee that things will work out and here is why I say this. There are things that we cannot control, such as the environment, the economy and the decisions our governments take. So while you are trying to reach your goals these factors are going to affect you psychologically, especially because 99% of the population is so negative. Yet, if you programme your mind for confidence in what you are doing it makes all the difference.

What about your strategy? What small change can you implement that will make all the difference? Lets take a look at this example. Did you know that when you are baking a double chocolate cake, 10 degrees in temperature makes a difference of how the cake will not only turn out but also taste? Just 10 degrees makes the difference between a winner and a loser of a cake. A split second makes a difference in who will take the gold medal in a 100m race. If you make small changes to the way you organise your day that can radically change your results in as little as 5 weeks. For example, have you noticed that people who write down their daily goals get more done than those who do not? I know a gentleman who worked everything from his diary .. he literally would choose the days he would work his different goals and each day he worked on a different subject like his skills, public speaking, finances… until two years later his income went from four to six figures!

So think about the small changes that you can make that will make all the difference in your life. I promise you, it is worth it. Remember that our daily actions, compounded over time brings the end result. I suggest you take a look at the article I wrote yesterday, Can I Really Have More Time if you haven’t already done so.

Until next time, be blessed.

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The turn around

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There comes a point in everyone’s life where they become frustrated with what they are and want to strive for better. This is because God has placed in each of us the desire to become better and to reach great standards of success and fulfillment. Yes, only God can truly make us happy,but a human being becomes miserable when he/she is not living out the exciting life that he/she desires.

So many people get this realisation but very few change… why is this? It’s simple… many people who are unhappy with their lives are not willing to make the changes necessary. This is because change is very painful and is often slow. However, I believe that if we take small steps towards action, as we set our weekly goals, we begin to experience small changes and become proud of ourselves.

What matters the most in life is that you make choices that will affect you in a positive manner. You should begin by changing YOUR MIND. The mind is very powerful and when you meditate on powerful thoughts they lead you in the direction and things slowly start to shift. What about the company you keep? Ask yourself the kind of person you would like to become in 5 years. Then look at the people with which you spend the majority of your time. Are they contributing anything positive? Do they push you to becoming  a better person? Are you contributing to their growth or are you dragging them down?

These are important points I would like you to consider. Once you have answered these questions, take the first step. You will know what it is.

Be blessed

Overcoming Negative Situations

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Hello! I am confident that you are keeping well and that you have so far enjoyed the beginning of your year. If you have had a shaky start, do not despair, things only get better.

I want to talk about overcoming negative situations because at times we tend to experience unexpected situations and they are usually very painful to deal with. We will experience setbacks from time to time but God always makes a way for each one of us and the best thing you can do for yourself is to learn how to cope during those trying times.

Here are a couple of things I do when I am going through difficult times:

1. Choose not to focus on the problem too much but instead on what I can learn from it.

2. Begin doing things that you enjoy and take a bit of time out for yourself so that you feel less stress. Just make sure that you are busy with something.

3. Often times we never deal with the root issue of why we have these problems. Do some soul searching and be honest with yourself. What experiences or issues do you have that have made you end up in such a mess? If the same pattern of problems re-occurs, then there definately is something you need to work out.

4. Understand that it will take some time. Nothing heals overnight. But over time, you will be fine.

I hope this has encouraged you! Stay blessed.

The reason

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Have you ever wondered why sometimes it is difficult for you to change the direction in which you are going even if you know its imperative to your success and wellbeing? Have you ever sat down and felt like throwing in the towel? Have you ever considered staying in the same place because you feel that change is too tough for you?

Do you know what I discovered this morning… most of us do not make the changes we need simply because we have not discovered the revelation behind it. Read that again until you get it.

There is a reason why you feel dissatisfied, uncomfortable and in need for change. It really is not only about you but your  contribution to your society at large. Lately I have had areas in my life which need a significant change and I stalled for so long, until I just became so depressed and irritated. I have also been looking for better opportunities everywhere else but inside myself and as each door shut, I would feel lower and weaker. Luckily a friend of mine came in and sat with me, and pointed out that these doors are not shut because I’m stupid or incompetent; it is simply because God is trying to shove out of me what He knows I could do. So when I analyzed that comment, I found the REASON behind why I should aspire to become succesful. You will be surprised that it had nothing at all to do with me, but that my willing to change for the better would lead to unprecedented levels of success, which would then enable me to influence my community in a transformational way.

Now had I not received that revelation I would still make excuses for keeping certain habits I have. I know it will take a lot of work, but we are all a work in progress. Human beings are designed to evolve at different stages of their lives. Change is an inevitable part of life but the problem with remaining the same when the season comes for you to step it up is that you become dormant, boring and stay 95% of the world’s population: DEAD. Now we all have different purposes in life and you should discover yours and takes steps to making it a reality, but just know that it will require for you to change some of the words you use, your associates, your environment and your mindset. It does not happen overnight but until you find a big enough reason to do so, it won’t happen. I wish you the best in your endeavors and I sincerely hope that you invest in yourself because you are truly worth it; not just for yourself but for the benefit of others in whichever field you are.

Be blessed and thank you for reading and supporting my work! Neo

To Your Success

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Let me tell you something you need to hear. The more thought and time you put into your business, project, idea… something comes along. I say this because I just received great news yesterday about a project I have been working on for the past couple of months and when I was repeatedly rejected I almost gave up but all that hard work and effort have contributed to this big break.

Do not allow the setbacks and closed doors determine your final outcome. Do not ever give up with anything that you are trying to achieve. I know you have probably heard this repeated a thousand times but you have to have a positive expectation even in the midst of your failure. I understand what you go through when things are so uncertain; but get ready to shake off the negativity and go on to reach your goals. If you do not do it, one day you will wake up and say, “what if”.

The world is full of what ifs and you do not need to be part of that group. So let me encourage you to get ready, take courage and do it again until you succeed! Be blessed!

What happened to your goals?

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We are reaching the end of the year and can you honestly say that you have reached most of the goals you had prepared for yourself?

I was at a seminar today, the key speaker was Mr. Lets Sithole, a Botswana born motivational speaker and corporate coach. He spoke about the importance of keeping our goals in mind and he said something that struck me:

Procrastination does not need your permission to be around.

This is so true. How often do we find ourselves procrastinating and then wonder why our lives are stagnant and unproductive? How much longer are we going to hang around the same people who are happy with us remaining as we are? Remember that human beings are people of certainty so when there is change in you, people feel insecure and that is why very often when you tell someone that you want to change the course of your life the first thing that person is likely to do is discourage you. But you cannot allow that to deter your course because five years from now you are the one who will suffer the circumstances of having not made the necessary change for you to prosper.

From my personal life experience, I can tell you that I only got serious about my goals and changing to meet them, when I realised how much time I had wasted. I had wasted five years. That is so much time… in frivolous behaviour, no direction and no vision. I had wasted time allowing people to dictate to me what I should do with my time; giving into peer pressure. The very same people I thought were heroes have somehow left my life and do not even care about me . I was alone, depressed, disappointed and only had a degree. If I have one regret in life it’s why I did not follow the dreams I had five years ago because I know that if I had, I would be a lot further.

My life is still wonderful because I managed to get back on course. However, I do not want you to make the same mistake because with certain things prevention is better than cure. Do not take the time you have for granted and do not hesitate implementing change when you know you need to. The most painful thing for you will be to wake up one day and realise that you have wasted your life.

Some tips…

1. Cut back your social time. I am not saying you must go into a corner and become boring but if you know that you spend most weekends having drinks and talking rubbish, stop that. Make associations with people who want to become succesful and be around them. Allow them to mentor and encourage you then you will begin to grow. You can then use your evenings to sit back and relax for a few hours but use your days wisely.

2. Write out your goals and figure out steps to achieving them. Each goal has a step that you can take. Baby steps make up the whole picture. Dream big but start small. It works. All the time.

3, Tell procrastination to shut up. If you say you will do it tomorrow you will never do it.

4. When a door shuts figure out how to open it if that is the door you need open.

5. Have confidence in yourself and confidence in the Lord to give you favour and grace. Remember to pray in Jesus’ name and He will direct your steps.

Have a lovely day, and please do not ever second guess yourself. You truly are amazing.